A good question asked by OratesFratres and a very good repply by asaltandbuttering on r/bitcoinforum

Q:

Could someone explain to me what these even mean? I'm still new to this, it's just that I'm still learning the terminology.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/Bitcoinforum/comments/7u2dq9/soft_fork_vs_hard_fork/

A:

Hard fork creates a new network which folks must update their software to join. Soft forks do not create a new network.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/Bitcoinforum/comments/7u2dq9/soft_fork_vs_hard_fork/dthkeyb/

A hard fork is a type of change to the underlying software of a blockchain network that makes previously invalid blocks and transactions valid, and vice versa. This is a significant change to the network, and it requires all nodes and users to upgrade to the new software in order to continue participating in the network. Because a hard fork is a more drastic change, it provides an opportunity to make more significant improvements to the network and can also help to address critical issues more effectively.

I choose hardfork for sure
just better